Archive for June, 2006

Improving relationships

Last week, I talked about how Feng Shui can be used to help improve relationships and also about the meaning of ‘relationship’ in classical Feng Shui. Feng Shui certainly can bring about positive effects for individuals facing problems with relationships.

But it is important to remember that classical Feng Shui is not just about improving one’s love life, nor is it ‘love voodoo’ that can be used to make someone fall in love with another person. It is about improving your interactions with people in general, so as to help overcome problems such as back-stabbing, lack of support at work, hostility in a business or personal relationship, enabling an amicable ending to a personal or business relationship and also, to smoothen out dealings with people around you.

So, let’s look at some simple methods to help improve your personal relationships with those around you, through Feng Shui. I will also talk about how your BaZi can help shed light on relationship-related issues.

Tapping into Yan Nian

One of the easiest techniques that almost anyone can use to help improve their personal relationship is tapping into the Yan Nian direction. If you will remember from last week’s article, Yan Nian is the direction derived from the transformation of the BaGua and the Early Heaven Combination of Ten. Yan Nian is the direction where Yin and Yang Qi are perfectly balanced, thus, creating ideal energies for developing healthy, positive people-to-people relationships and also, to calm emotions and bring balance.

We all have a personal Yan Nian direction and it is derived based on the person’s Life Gua. So for example, if you are Li Gua, then your Yan Nian direction is North. If you are Gen Gua, then your Yan Nian direction is West. The table below shows what is the Yan Nian direction for all of the eight Guas.

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Once you have determined your personal Yan Nian direction, tap into the Qi in this direction. If you are facing relationship problems at work with colleagues or superiors, try locating your work desk to face this direction. If it is more family or personal relationships that you are having trouble with, then try to adjust the direction of your bed so that your head sleeps pointing in the direction of Yan Nian.

If you find that you cannot align your bed in the direction of Yan Nian or you cannot change the position of your desk, then see if you can make use of the Yan Nian sector of your house. To find the Yan Nian sector of your house, you will need to first know the Facing Direction of the house. Once you have ascertained the Facing Direction of your house, check against the tables below, to find the Qi map that corresponds to your house. The Yan Nian sector is marked in red.

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To help improve and enhance your personal relationships, use this room for reading, working, as a bedroom or just try to spend more time in this sector. Remember, in Feng Shui, we do not always need to ‘put’ objects nor do we always have to think about ‘activating’ the Qi. Being in the room and spending time in the room, where there is positive Qi or the kind of Qi we want to make use of is also a means in which to make use of Feng Shui.

For those of you with some familiarity of Flying Stars, the Annual Star #4 can also be used to help foster and improve relationships. For the year 2006, the #4 star is in the NW sector. In 2007, it flies into the W sector and in 2008, it can be found in the NE sector.

Now, you might be wondering at this point, how does facing a certain direction or sleeping with your head towards a certain direction help with relationships?

Direction is one of the primary methods used in Feng Shui to tune into a particular type of Qi, whether it is the person that is trying to tune into that type of energy, of the property. This is because different types of Qi reside at different locations so by being at the location or facing that direction, we are trying to tap that particular type of energy. That is why you find that in Feng Shui, the orientation of the property is of paramount importance. Similarly, when an individual is trying to make use of certain energies, they do so by either being in a particular location in the house, or by sleeping in or facing that direction.

You might also be wondering why Feng Shui practitioners frequently make reference to sleeping in a particular location (for example, a South room) or sleeping with your head facing a particular direction. It’s quite simple - most people spend between 8-12 hours sleeping and resting. So it makes sense to make use of that time to tap into useful and helpful energies. Otherwise, those 8-12 hours are literally just spent sleeping!

The Peach Blossom Factor

Now, whenever the subject of relationships is discussed, ‘Peach Blossom’ always crops up. Almost everyone out there knows about or has heard about ‘Peach Blossom’ (Tao Hua). It has to its great misfortune, acquired a rather needlessly scandalous reputation. If some of the things written about Peach Blossom are to be believed, it is the reason for husbands straying, and also the sole saviour of single women out there! So let’s understand what exactly Peach Blossom is and how it relates to relationships.

The term ‘peach blossom’ comes from Chinese imagery and poetry, which associates the ‘peach blossom’ flower with love and romance. So when the Chinese people say, a person is going through ‘Peach Blossom Luck’, it is a short form way of saying, they are having a lot of luck with the opposite sex.

In both Feng Shui and BaZi, ‘Peach Blossom’ is a type of star. Sometimes, if for some reason, the Yan Nian sector, or the #4 star is not usable in a house, then the Feng Shui consultant may suggest the use of Water to activate the Peach Blossom star direction for that property. The mis-interpretation of this technique is probably what led to the misguided ‘vase with flowers’ technique for enhancing one’s love life luck. It is not the vase, or the flowers, but the Water and Wood element that is doing the work.

This technique is not always recommended because using the Peach Blossom star direction of the house triggers Peach Blossom for every resident in the house, and not just the person who needed the help. Also, if too much Water is used, Peach Blossom Sha may become the problem, and Peach Blossom creates hassles rather than brings about positive effects.

The Code of Attraction

In the study of BaZi, there is also a Peach Blossom star. How does this star manifest? Well, I’m sure you know of some people who naturally enjoy good personal relationships with people. Someone who is very ‘smooth’, has that magic touch when it comes to dealing with people. These are people who no one says a bad word about and who could probably charm the birds from the trees! They have a way of calming angry people, soothing the upset and irate and can make people feel at ease with them. And generally, these people also enjoy particularly good relationships with the opposite sex. They are not always handsome or good-looking mind you but somehow, they have a certain attraction factor, a certain magnetism.

These are people who usually have Peach Blossom stars in their personal BaZi chart. Politicians, rock stars, actors and individuals in the public eye will usually need to have a little Peach Blossom in their BaZi to help them with their endeavours. What are the Peach Blossom stars? Look at the table below:

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A person with Peach Blossom in their personal BaZi chart tends to easily attract attention from the opposite sex and have a way with people, including the opposite sex. Now, romance of course, probably comes a bit easier to these people because people naturally are attracted to them. But, that does not mean that they always attract the people that they actually like or also attracted to! Sometimes, the feeling is not mutual! Also, too much Peach Blossom in a BaZi chart is also unfavourable - it leads to Peach Blossom hassles.

If you have a Peach Blossom star in your BaZi, then you probably don’t need to use Feng Shui to enhance your appeal. However, if you don’t have a Peach Blossom star in your BaZi and you are having relationship problems, whether at work or in your personal life, then it might be an idea to look to tap into Yan Nian, to help smoothen and build the relationships.

These are of course quite simple and elementary techniques you can make use of to improve relationships but also, understand where your relationship issues may be. But at the end of the day, too much or too little attraction should never be the issue. Being attractive is just one part of the equation when it comes to relationships. Building and managing your relationship is just as important. And that isn’t about Feng Shui or BaZi, but about you.


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Feng Shui potion No.9

Recently, a student forwarded me a copy of an article that appeared on the Internet from AFP, detailing how people in the US are turning to Feng Shui to help improve their love lives and their ability to meet someone, despite this being the era of Internet dating and online-romance. In the article, romance apparently can be yours with this simple method: “The formula for stirring up romantic energy is simple enough. Fresh flowers are placed in water in a wide-necked vase. The colour of the flower and the vase must be the same and can be determined by checking a person’s birth date on a Feng Shui chart or by having a reading done.”

I was not sure to be honest, whether or not to treat this as a joke or to consign this article to the garbage bin. So I thought, let’s be positive about it and write about the subject of love and Feng Shui. I think it’s time to get a few things straight when it comes to Cupid and your Favourable Direction.

Can Feng Shui help Relationships?

The short answer to this question is yes. But of course, there is also a long answer. First, people need to understand what exactly is the ‘relationship’ that Feng Shui can help with. There are many Feng Shui classics out there but I have yet to come across one that asks the Feng Shui master to play Cupid or St Valentine or asks us to exchange our Luo Pan for a Cupid’s bow.

And when I say improving, I do not mean that you can use Feng Shui to make someone ‘like’ you. Feng Shui is not some kind of black magic or love voodoo. I mean, let’s face it, if all it really took was a vase and flowers of the same colour, why not put Angeline Jolie’s or Brad Pitt’s picture inside the vase as well? If you are going to have false hope, you might as well go all the way.

So, let’s get it straight here: it ain’t about the vase, it ain’t about the flowers, and it ain’t about Mandarin ducks in pairs. I hate to break people’s duck about this (pardon the pun), but that is the truth. And there is no “Love Corners” in Classical Feng Shui either. There is no one direction or universal section of a person’s house that can help you ‘enhance’ your relationship luck. And it does not matter how many peony flower paintings you put there, or how many vases of water you put there.

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This is not to say that in Feng Shui, there are no directions or sectors that can help you with relationships. In Eight Mansions Feng Shui, the energies of Yan Nian star are usually tapped to help improve relationship matters, while Flying Star practitioners will usually look to make use of the 4-1 or 1-4 star combinations. But these are not in any way ‘love combinations, nor is the Yan Nian star some hippy Love Corner direction. If you have read in a book that says Yan Nian is the Love Corner or South is the Love Corner, it’s simply because it’s more marketable to label something as the ‘love corner’ than to tell people that it’s about improving their people-to-people interaction skills!

Tapping into the Right Energies

So, let’s get down to what Feng Shui can do for you, when it comes to the subject of relationships.

First, let’s understand what relationship means in classical Feng Shui. Relationships do not necessarily refer to connections of the amorous or romantic kind. Rather, when we talk about improving and helping relationships in Feng Shui, we are talking about general people-to-people relationships. So what are these people-to-people relationships? They include family relationships, personal relationships with friends, superiors, colleagues, business partners, business associates or suppliers, for example. Now, it does not exclude romantic relationships but it is not exclusively referring to romantic relationships either.

So how does Feng Shui help with relationships of the romantic and non-romantic kind? And what kind of help are we talking about?

Improving relationships through classical Feng Shui is about making use of the energies (Qi) in certain locations of the home or office to assist with relationships by helping to smooth the path of meeting people, or interacting with people. It creates opportunities for interaction, networking and good relations with those around you. If for example, you find you are always being back-stabbed at work, or perhaps you are lacking support from superiors or colleagues at work, or constantly being picked on by a superior at work, you have a relationship problem.

However, many people often do not know that Feng Shui can also be used to keep relationships that have gone sour sweet, post the break-up. Breaking up a partnership or a joint venture or even breaking off a relationship for example, can be made easier, smoother and less contentious, by using the Yan Nian sectors. After all, in the business world (and even in your personal life), they say it pays not to burn your bridges! Through correct and appropriate use of the Yan Nian sector, ending of the relationship or the corporate divorce can be an amicable, amiable and pleasant affair, rather than a contentious name-calling exercise. Yan Nian, while not a Love Corner, is perhaps something of a ‘Don’t Hate Me’ corner.

Now, you might be thinking: what’s so special about Yan Nian and how does Yan Nian work to help relationships? To understand this, we must understand how Yan Nian sector is derived. Yan Nian is not a universal direction. It varies and is derived from either the individual’s Personal Gua (if used for personal directions) or the House Gua (if used to identify the appropriate sector in the house).

The Yan Nian sector is the sector where all the energies are completely balanced - there is where both Yin and Yang Qi is in harmony. Hence, the Qi is sentimental and calming, bringing balance to the emotions and enables the development of positive and healthy relationships.

Next week, I will share with you some practical tips on how you can use Feng Shui to improve your personal relationships (the romantic and non-romantic ones)!


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Breaking the Dan Brown code

As many of you would have no doubt figured out, the person whose BaZi I will be decoding this week is the famous author of the Da Vinci Code, Mr Dan Brown. Mr Brown’s Destiny Code looks like this:

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Naturally, we are keen to understand where Mr Brown’s talent comes from and you will find that his BaZi not only explains why such phenomenal and tremendous success has come to him in such a short time, but also why he has a keen interest in anagrams and codes and mysterious organisations like Opus Dei. It also tells us a little bit about why his previous attempts at songwriting and previous novels did not get anywhere until the Da Vinci Code.

Just a brief note for those readers who perhaps have little familiarity with BaZi or do not know the terminology. Some of the terms are names that are directly translated from their Chinese names and so to the untrained ear, will sound a little odd and perhaps create incorrect assumptions about what the term means, such as Seven Killings (sounds violent but take it with a bag of salt) and Eating God (no religious connotations implied or otherwise). If you are not familiar with BaZi, it is best to just assume these are special terms and attach no impression or meaning to them. Of course, I will explain what the terms mean, so that you can appreciate how BaZi professionals decode a Destiny Code.

The Code of a Writer

In the study of BaZi, all charts have a structure, just like in Feng Shui, a house’s Qi map will also have a structure. Of course, there are common typical structures and there are unique structures. Mr Brown’s chart is a structure known as “Shi Shen Pei Yin Ge” or Output matches Resource Structure.

In this chart, the Eating God star, represented by the Wood element is extremely strong, having roots in the Chen (Dragon) and Yin (Tiger) branches of the BaZi. Jia Wood is also considered ideal for authors, especially when it is also the Eating God star. What is the Eating God star? At a superficial level of BaZi, Eating God represents amongst other things, a person’s output or what they create. Individuals with Eating God also tend to be people who are behind the scenes or work unseen, such as an author.

Now to be a successful author, you cannot just be able to write (otherwise, everyone out there who wrote would be a successful novelist). You have to have unique ideas, a special insight into the world, or great imagination and inspiration. In the study of BaZi, the Resource star relates to knowledge, inspiration, ideas and the star known as Indirect Resource (Pian Yin), relates to unconventional ideas, unique perspectives and unorthodox thinking. All the qualities needed for someone planning to write a novel full of codes, brain cracking puzzles, tricky anagrams and the mystery of the century!

Now, in truly unique and special BaZis, the elements all work together and play off each other. In Mr Brown’s Destiny Code, there is a perfect use of the Eating God star (represented by Jia or Yang Wood) because it is made useful by the Indirect Resource star (represented by Geng or Yang Metal). So his writing is supported by good ideas. His Indirect Resource star in turn is of a good quality because of the Ding Fire or Yin Fire found in the Horse (Wu), located in the Month Branch of his BaZi. This Ding Fire or Yin Fire forges and makes useful the Geng or Yang Metal. Ding Fire or Yin Fire is the Direct Wealth star for Mr Brown’s chart. Direct Wealth, amongst other things, represents putting one’s nose to the grindstone, working hard and also is the Wife star for a man.

Of course, there are many authors out there - not all of them are worth an estimated 250 million. So does Mr Brown’s chart reveal his wealth potential? Yes. In the BaZi classic Di Tian Sui, a verse states: “How do you know if a person is rich, because he’s born in the Door of Wealth”. Mr Brown’s Wealth is represented by the element of Fire in his chart. The Month Branch of Mr Brown’s BaZi, the Wu (Horse) is a strong Wealth star. Inside the Yin (Tiger) is also a Wealth star, an Indirect Wealth star, that is in Growth stage. Mr Brown’s Indirect Wealth star is Bing Fire or the fire of the sunlight, indicating his Wealth potential from book royalties, like the fire of the sun, is infinite!

So, it can be said that in this BaZi, the individual has the potential and capacity to become a successful and wealthy author, and the wife star is useful, helpful and of great significance.

Unlocking the Code

Mr Brown met his wife in 1993 and got married to her in 1997. In a newspaper article by the Observer, he is quoted as saying she is his ‘inspiration’ and she has a big mention in his books and Cds (yes, before he wrote books, he wrote music, which is also an Eating God star activity). When he decided to become an author, his wife helped him get his first book deal, organised book signing of his first book, did his PR, got him onto talk shows and helped him do a great deal of research into the historical and art reference for the Da Vinci Code. He also has stated in numerous interviews that his routine consists of getting up at 4am and banging out the words in his loft. Talk about putting your nose to the grindstone.

His book is a best-seller although some reviewers complained about his awkward writing. The Guardian reviewer suggested his writing made ‘a crisp packet read like a sonnet’. Again the explanation is in the BaZi. Mr Brown’s Eating God star is represented by the element of Jia Wood. Jia Wood, in BaZi, is represented by tall trees. Trees grow only one way and are straightforward and to the point. Hence, Mr Brown’s fuss-free get to the point writing. It doesn’t have to be beautiful to the ears, as long as you get the point!

Perfect Timing

How did the Da Vinci Code defy the critics to become a 60 million copies in 44 languages publishers’ dream, with 227 million dollar movie to match, to which Mr Brown received 6 million dollars for the rights alone? And why did Mr Brown’s two previous books not achieve the same success given that it is clear he has, in his Destiny Code, the potential to be a successful author? For that, we must look at the dynamic element of his BaZi, the luck pillars.

The Luck Pillars represent the dynamic aspect of a person’s BaZi. They unlock the potential of the BaZi during certain periods, when the elements interact in a manner to create certain outcomes, but can also create obstacles. Mr Brown’s Day Master is weak and his chart is hot, so the Useful God and Favourable element for his chart is Water, specifically Gui Water or Yin Water.

Mr Brown’s previous Luck Pillar, during the years of 1988-1997, creates an unfavourable combination in his chart, between the You (Rooster) in his chart and the Chen (Dragon). This combination removes the Chen (Dragon), thus removing the roots of the Jia Wood. During this period of time, his Direct Resource is combined away, so there is no one to help him out in his endeavours. It also compromises the quality of his Eating God star, taking away opportunities for him.

All this changes in 1998, when Mr Brown enters the Xu (Dog) pillar of his Luck Pillars. It was in this year, his first mystery book, Digital Fortress was released but even then, it didn’t sell too well at the time. A humour book and Angels and Demons followed. Neither sold more than 10,000 copies at the time, according to Wikipedia. Then came the Da Vinci Code in 2003 and within weeks it was on the New York Times Best-seller list. What happened?

The Xu (Dog) luck pillar represents a good pillar for Mr Brown because the Dog and Dragon clash, releasing Gui or Yin Water. This is an extremely favourable element to Mr Brown’s chart because he is a weak Ren Water and needs the Rob Wealth star to strengthen him. But even within a favourable Luck Pillar, good luck does not come overnight, like instant noodles. In 2003, Gui Water appears in the Stem of the year, so Mr Brown’s most needed and most useful element appears that year. It not only strengthens the Day Master, but nourishes the Jia Wood or Eating God star. Suddenly, the Qi in the chart is flowing. Furthermore, the Dog luck pillar creates a powerful 3 Harmony combination of Yin Wu Xu, which produces Fire, his Wealth element. Wealth is extremely powerful but now the self is strong, so he can ‘take’ the wealth.

Will the Luck Hold?

Mr Brown’s forthcoming book, reputedly named the Solomon Key, is expected to come out in 2007. Will he enjoy the same level of success? In 2008, he will change luck pillars and enter Hai (Pig) Luck. This period will signal intensifying competition and his rivals will prove to be formidable. For his next book to top his current achievement, he will need to make sure the book comes out in early 2007. Furthermore the Hai (Pig) combines with the Yin (Tiger) and the Wu (Horse), weakening his Wealth Luck. Thus, whilst the Hai (Pig) remains a favourable pillar generally, as it contains Water, during that luck pillar, he will not make as much money probably. But then with 250 million in the bank, arguably that is the least of his concerns!


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Decoding the destiny chart

The Chinese have always been fascinated by the metaphysical subject of Destiny. It is this profound curiosity about man’s path in life, the journey of a person, and the question of who we are, why are we here, and what are we supposed to do during our time on this planet, during our brief existence, that led the Chinese to study and seek methods for analyzing a person’s Destiny. These later evolved to become two systems of Chinese Astrology, known as BaZi (Eight Characters, also known as Four Pillars) and Zi Wei Dou Shu (Purple Star Astrology)

What fascinated the Chinese centuries ago remains one of the endearing and continuing quests of mankind, even to this date: to understand ourselves better, to better ourselves, and to appreciate what makes each unique and individual person, tick. And along the way, maybe figure out why is it that we’ve been put on this planet! Go to a bookstore and you will see a proliferation of books (and these days, tests), all attempting to explain to us, through scientific, psychological, biological, genetic or in some cases, just downright humorous ways, the question of WHO we are. And weighing down the shelves at another section called ‘Self Help’, volumes and tomes attempting to tell people how to improve themselves, beyond what and who they are.

These questions and many more, in fact, can be found through understanding a person’s Destiny Code, or his BaZi.

So what is BaZi?

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BaZi is a system of Destiny Analysis, using a person’s birth data, namely, his date and time of birth. By calculating and determining the elements prevailing at the time of a person’s birth, an Eight Character BaZi chart is then derived. This BaZi chart is a sort of Cosmic DNA if you like. A BaZi chart is each and every person’s individual and personal Destiny Code. Within those Eight Characters, contains a comprehensive, arguably complete, collection of information about an individual and his life potential and capacity.

It may sound quite incredible but this is the genius of the Chinese Astrology system. A person’s entire life - pitfalls, trials, tribulations, wealth, status, personality, characteristics, talents, abilities - are all encoded within these eight characters.

The BaZi consultant, who understands what the various codes within the BaZi chart mean, is then able to ascertain what kind of potential or capacity a person has in their life and also, ascertain the person’s luck cycle, meaning, which years he is likely to experience good luck, and which years luck is likely to be less than favourable. In short, by decoding a person’s Destiny Code, a BaZi consultant is able to reveal what is in store for that person in their life, just as medical scientists can ascertain a person’s eye colour, if their will be brown and medical illnesses, by analyzing their DNA.

BaZi and Feng Shui: Diagnosis and Prescription

At a professional practice level, BaZi and Feng Shui are essential complimentary disciplines. Just like all doctors have to understand the biology of the body and the chemistry of drugs, all professional Classical Feng Shui consultants will have BaZi or Purple Star Astrology, another Destiny Analysis system, as a complimentary or back-up skill, to be used in tandem with Feng Shui. Some consultants will also use Face Reading or Mian Xiang as a third complimentary discipline and back-up system.

Many people do not realise that it is extremely important that before a person’s house or office is Feng Shui-ed, his BaZi must be taken into consideration. Why is that? Well, before a doctor can write a prescription, he first needs to know what is wrong with the patient right? Before a Feng Shui practitioner deploys his Feng Shui skills, he must first know, what is the problem that he is trying to fix.

Of course, most of you will remember that a few weeks ago, I wrote about how Feng Shui is a goal-orientated science. The client of course, must know what he wish to achieve in using Feng Shui. Sometimes, clients will tell me that they have a certain problem (for example, business relationships are problematic, or they are finding it tough going making headway at work, or the most common problem - not making enough money!). But most of the time, clients are not certain as to what their problem is, or only have a vague idea of what the problem is. Hence, the Feng Shui consultant must check their Destiny Code, before proceeding with the Feng Shui.

Sometimes, the clients know what they want (like that Abba song, Money Money Money) but even in these instances, the Feng Shui consultant must still check the BaZi. Why? This is because Feng Shui is not some kind of cosmic steroids.

If you want to turn into Arnold overnight, steroids might help you. But even then, you have to have the body and physical make up that enables you to get those kinds of muscles. Similarly, if you want to turn into Warren Buffett overnight, Feng Shui can only help you, if you have the Destiny to be a multi-billionaire in the first place. In other words, you must first have, before you can be!

In my Feng Shui classes, I always tell students: to perm hair, you must first have hair. This is in reference to tapping of Qi in the environment. If the environment has no Qi or no good Qi in the first place, no matter how you try to tap into it, no matter what formulas you use, you won’t get superior results. The ‘to perm hair, first you must have hair’ principle also applies to using Feng Shui to enhance Wealth or any other enhancement sought through Feng Shui. If in your BaZi, you are not destined to be a multi-millionaire, or your BaZi does not reveal that potential during certain periods of time, then no amount of Feng Shui enhancement, no super-powerful formula, can make you one.

You must first have, before you can be.

What’s the point in knowing if it’s all bad news?

Some people are against the idea of knowing their destiny and take the view that life should be experienced as is. More often than not, people are against knowing their destiny because they believe that it will be self-fulfilling prophecy and limit them. I have also met people who take the view that they would simply rather not know anything about the future, because they are fearful of knowing what it holds.

It is not all bad news. In life, there is only one certainty, and that is death. So too in BaZi and Feng Shui, there is no such thing as totally bad or totally good. There is no end destination, there are only journeys. Some days the sea is calm, some days it is rough - so in knowing how the winds blow, you can steer your boat the right way.

Similarly, I disagree with the argument that BaZi creates self-fulfilling prophesies, limits people or somehow encourages people to kill their dreams. In the old days, BaZi was used mainly to determine a person’s fate. In other words, the focus was on the hand you would be dealt and just knowing what kind of ‘life’ you would have. Of course, as a society and civilization, we have come a long way from that mentality and also, BaZi consultants approach this discipline in a very different way.

Today, BaZi is not about knowing the hand that you are dealt, although that is part of the goal, but in then playing that hand, as best you can, to the best of the abilities you have. It is about understanding what you can and cannot do, at certain points in time, and taking the right action to improve your life. It is about understanding yourself, and those around you, and then bettering your personal relationships, your opportunities and your life.

BaZi tells you about what your potential in life is so that you can chose to do the right thing and not be disappointed and waste time doing something you have little chance of succeeding in. It tells you when disappointment strikes, when you should throw in the towel WISELY, and when you should continue to fight the good fight. It does not destroy a person’s dream - it tells them, which dreams to chase because that is the one that can become a reality.

Next week, I will decode the BaZi of a very interesting individual, and explore why this person achieved such explosive and tremendous success in a short span of time. Hint: paragraph 6 holds the key to the CODE!


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